Monday, May 31, 2010

..we say goodbye to the person we love although we never want to..
it doesn’t mean that we have stopped loving them
or we have stopped caring.
Sometimes goodbye is just
a painful way
to say
I love YOU. ♥

..we decide to stop LOVING someone.
not only because they don't LOVE us
but because we find that
they actually are happier without us.... ♥

..YOU love someone so much
YOU will find that
YOU would be willing
to give up everything for them,
but they would never ask YOU to
because they also love YOU.. ♥

I would like to run away
From YOU
But if YOU didn't come
And find me ...
I would 'die'
even if I'm still breathing.. ♥

They say
soul meets soul
on lover's lips..
I don't believe it
until YOU prove it to me.. ♥

you realize that
Love is just
a word
someone YOU meet
give it
a proper meaning to YOU .. ♥

tanda-tanda kematian yang DIA zahirkan mengikut kala penghampiran waktu dicabut nyawa.

Tanda 100 hari sebelum mati

Tanda pertama dari DIA kepada hamba-hambaNya yang dikehendaki.Semua antara kita akan peroleh tanda ini,persoalannya adakah kita mampu sedar atau tidak.

•Lazimnya usai A'sar - Seluruh tubuh(dari hujung rambut-hujung kaki) akan mengalami getaran/menggigil (digambarkan seakan daging lembu yang baru disembelih-kelihatan seakan bergetar)

Tanda 40 hari sebelum mati

•Juga usai A'sar - Bahagian pusat berdenyut-denyut.
Tika ini, daun yang tertulis nama kita akan gugur dari dahan pokok yang tumbuh di atas A'rasyNya.Malaikat maut akan mengambil daun yang tertera nama kita itu dan mula membuat persediaan (mula mengikut kita dan mungkin juga menzahirkan sekilas lalu wajahnya buat mereka yang terpilih)

Tanda 7 hari sebelum mati

•Mengidam makanan dan lebih berselera dari biasa

Adapun tanda ini akan diberikan kepada mereka yang diuji dengan musibah kesakitan(di mana orang yang sakit yang tidak berselera menjadi terlebih berselera)

Tanda 5 hari sebelum mati

•Anak lidah bergerak-gerak pada kadar yang janggal

Tanda 3 hari sebelum mati

•Denyutan pada tengah dahi-
Jika tanda ini disedari, maka berpuasalah supaya perut kita tidak mengandungi banyak najis dan memudahkan pengurusan jenazah(mandi) kita nanti
•Mata hitam kita hilang sinarnya
•Hidung (bagi orang yang sakit) akan melurut ke bawah - jika dilihat dari sisi
•Telinga juga turut melurut dan bahagian hujungnya akan beransur-ansur masuk ke dalam
•Telapak kaki terlunjur,jatuh ke depan dan sukar ditegakkan

Tanda 1 hari sebelum mati

•Usai A'sar, kita akan merasakan satu denyutan pada ubun-ubun dan seluruh dahi - menandakan kita tidak akan sempat untuk menemui A'sar keesokan harinya.

Tanda AKHIR sebelum mati

•Kita akan merasa kedinginan di bahagian pusat, turun ke pinggang dan seterusnya akan naik ke bahagian halqum.
Pada saat ini hendaklah kita terus mengucap kalimah Syahadah dan berdiam diri menanti kedatangan Izrail menjemput kita kembali kepada Pencipta Agung,Allah S.W.T.


what is love?

Love that we cannot have lasts the longest..
hurts the deepest
and feels the strongest..

Thursday, May 27, 2010

You're alone,
I'll be your shadow.
If you want to cry,
I'll be your shoulder.
If you want a hug,
I'll be your pillow.
If you need to be happy,
I'll be your smile.
But anytime you need love,
I'll just be me..

~my.. (n.n)~

I love your love
as you never show
I love your love
as i feel how it is grows
I love your love
as you get rid of my sorrow
I love your love
as I know how sweet is your love..

~ly.. (^.^)~

what do you feel when the one you loved
know how to start a conversation with the one he/she called bestfriend
~even with the single "..." or "hey" or "oitt" or anything
and for the record the besftfriend is the opposite gender~
but don't know how to do the same when with you?
and end-up
you and your loved one always become silent to one another?
isnt' it feels something wrong there..?
did he/she love his/her bestfriend more than they do to you?
or he/she just happen to still have the crush for the so-call-bestfriend?
hey..we all have our own bestfriend and some of it is the opposite gender
but we don't stay so close like he/she did..
say what again..?owhhh...
the crush is just in the past..
or "hey, nothing seriously though"..
or "you worried so much"..
haha..yeahh right..
no harm done..
just think positive as you could okay..
we all need friends
and some lucky to have bestfriends
either the same or opposite gender
we can share
what's there in life
and just be happy for what there is...

life is short as you may say..
we just have to spread the love as we may
for the love will stay..

to my loved ones..thanks for everything as you're the sunshine to my world
if you choose to let me go, i'm sorry if i'm not being the best you ever wanted..

to my friends..thanks for being good friend to me..
if you choose to be a backstabber, i'm sorry for your decisions..

to my bestfriends..thanks for being part of my world
if you choose to just be friend, i'm just lost your special spot in my heart..

for whatever choices u choose or decisions u made..
no regret..cheerish it as you always wanted..

and i will always miss YOU

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

teddy bears..

Is there anyone here interested to buy teddy bears..
i have a lot of it..and i think it is time for me
to let it all go..because ...
a lot of reasons actually..
i have no idea how to promote
in selling my teddy bears..
want to do it
like garage sell..some sort.. me..

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Okay.First of all.. You have to know the fact that getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, because she's so sweet a thing to be discounted and you dearly are in love with her plus your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth but by the words of the heart. So it means getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is ~faint heart, never won fair lady~

The first dating idea for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things just to get a decent girl's attention. You have to try to be unique, that's all you need.
Be a man of his own style. Dress decently ~ indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance~, Watch your language ~obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured, Be a man of good habits ~don't drink or smoke too much like any other loser~

Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style and be creative in order to get her attention.

Befriending and understanding the girl.It is the important thing. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other or should they break up. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.

Be the shoulder to lean on and good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she will have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special because she's someone's friend ~ your friend~ and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

Make sure she knew that in your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world and every aspect of your life with your dream's girl. Always dream with her, build with her and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl of your dreams how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night. Let her know that she is so special to you and you also want to be special in her life.

Be in her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

As in the first phase, you have to be creative and constructive to keep the girl's interest in you so full of life. If you could, never fail to phone her ~even when she least expects it~. Make surprise ..but not the kind of surprise that you know she will hate it or get mad at you.Okay? Play safe. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces and so on..Don't force her to accept you even when you knew that she might not fall-in-love with you as you were expected but just show her the love you have and just hope the best for both of you.

Now, the writing is on the wall that you want her but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing her vitamin, that is you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand and that you'll always do your best to make her happy and feel loved. Together is the best medicine she will ever get.

But above all, remember.. patience is the key to her heart .For example, try to be be like the gardener who watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it but exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit nor pinching it nor testing it to see if it is ready and then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten and at that time the gardener know, all his waiting time and patience are worth it.

With the patience and self-control which you practice it will make you become more attractive and charming in her point of view thus, this will qualify you as her daily vitamin and gives you all the chances for you to win you her heart that you ever wanted, so..gentleman..go and make her fall in love with you and make her feel that she is the happiest girl in the world!!

Chaiyok-chaiyokk!!! (n.n)

Just look at the pictures and the'll amaze..
The Avatar
~i want to live in that world..ahaha~


 you know we can't live without them, can't stop checking out their butts when they pass us on the street..with the great muscular body..his shape...his handsome face..auww..haha.
~don't lie ..I knew you girls/women felt the same way too..haha~

As fierce, independent women, we like to think that we don't need men. ~well..egoism is on the air~ We said we can change our own tires, without help by men…open our own jars, again without help by men…move our own furniture, all by ourselves…Still, it sure is nice to have men around you know..
~p/s: Guys.. just consider this as love letter from us to you..okay.. xoxo~

Below, ten things women love about men..

1. Their bodies.
  • Yup yup, we said it. Even the scrawny hipster-types have biceps that make us with their hands are almost always bigger than is stated that no matter what size a guy is, he can always make us feel small and delicate.. ~and also make us feel like we are the sweetest thing ever in the world for him to love..ahakz~ and what's with those beautiful, provocative veins guys have on their arms? ohh, not to forget the facial hair too! Sure..sometimes it gets scratchy on us but heyy, it looks so darn sexy you know..

2. Their innate ability to do and understand things we can't.

  • Actually we hate having to rely on anyone except ourselves but sometimes it's just easier to ask him to take care of it. Sometimes we beg forgiveness for the gross generalizations that are about to follow but we always ask him to carry heavy objects up the stairs (that's mainly because of laziness, etc), hang pictures and kill large-scary-gross bugs still though after that time he pretended to throw that bug carcass at us and we screamed like a 5-year-old girl, we think we might not ask him again but still..we knew,deep down we need him..

3. Their secret sensitive side.

  • When a guy cries in front of you, it can feel as if you've won the emotional lottery. Tears are a sign of extreme intimacy and the fact that he's let down his guard probably means that he cares about you deeply and trusts you. We also love it when we catch our man staring at us with what can only be described as "tenderness" and when he pulls us close for a quick hug, or kisses the top of our heads, our hearts just melt...~owhh..such a sweet romance~
4. Their scent.
  • Their body wash. Their aftershave. Their (subtly-spritzed-on) cologne. Their natural, musky fragrance. All of it combines to create a perfume we can't help wanting to envelop ourselves in. ~the smell that can't be avoided to fell-in-love with~

5. Their brains.

  • It's been scientifically proven that the male brain is different from the female brain. ~obviously..duhh'~ We're not sure if that's what makes them enjoy wedgies, football and Star Wars or not..either way, their essential "maleness" and their appreciation for our "femaleness" makes us feel pretty special about being women..and that is awesome!!

6. Their sense of humor.

  • We love the way they can charm us with their silly jokes, think bodily functions are funny (we sometimes do, too) and make us laugh at our shortcomings and not to take ourselves too seriously especially when the hard-time come to us..and that's what makes most women can't resist men.
7. Their natural protectiveness.
  • It makes us smile when they walk on the outside, nearest to the traffic, extend a hand to help us up a steep incline or worry that we're going to get kidnapped..because even if we can totally protect ourselves without men ~it is because we've followed a strict routine of kick-boxing and belly dancing, so on~ it's still nice to feel taken care of. ~that's when our feminism and childish step-out~

8. Their clothes.

  • Especially that tight shirt or giant-fuzzy sweater with stripes that's lined with fleece and that goes down to our knees and that ..what? You can't find your sweater honey? Um…don't look at me.. just so,how they charm us~

9. Their dependability.

  • Call it boring and predictable, but trust me it's good to be with someone whose behavior is (at least most of the time) guided by logic and common sense rather than emotions. While it can be infuriating when he manages to maintain a completely calm demeanor in the face of our most melodramatic of meltdowns ~don't you understand!?~, it can also make us feel more secure...calmly secure..
10. Their undying passion for us…even when we're wearing granny panties.
  • In a world that values appearance over so many other traits, it's nice to know that men still desire us even when we're wearing decidedly unsexy pajamas, not wearing any make-up, with messy-undone hair, haven't shaved our legs in a week and have an emerging zit in the center of our foreheads and with all the-not-pretty-celebrity-look-like. After all, they're also not so perfect themselves and because of that we still love them. When it comes down to it, we're not so different after all..

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Apabila tumor membesar di dalam tengkorak, ia akan menyempitkan tisu otak di sekelilingnya dan ini menyebabkan tekanan.Tumor-tumor benigna dan malignan boleh menyebabkan otak di sekitarnya membengkak. Pening selalunya merupakan gejala yang pertama. Pening yang disebabkan tumor otak boleh menjadi sangat teruk, berterusan, atau berulang-ulang.

Gejala-gejala lain termasuk:
* loya dan muntah
* kesukaran bercakap atau mengingati perkataan
* gangguan pada penglihatan, pendengaran, bau dan rasa
* rasa lemah atau lumpuh di bahagian tertentu badan
* hilang keseimbangan
* keseluruhannya terasa cepat naik marah, selalu mengantuk, atau terdapat perubahan pada personaliti

Tumor otak boleh juga menyebabkan serangan tiba-tiba (juga dikenali sebagai sawan atau konvulsi) dengan merangsangkan sel-sel saraf di dalam otak. Serangan ini mungkin
mengakibatkan diri tidak sedarkan diri hanya selama beberapa saat, atau mungkin juga
melibatkan kekejangan otot atau pergerakan abnormal selama 30 saat atau lebih.

Perlu jumpa dengan pegawai-pegawai kesihatan professional berikut seperti:
*pakar nuero surgeri dan ahli neurologi: yang mendiagnosis dan merawat orang yang
mempunyai tumor otak dan saraf tunjang (pakar neurosurgeri yang akan melakukan pembedahan)
* pakar onkologi perubatan: yang bertanggungjawab ke atas kemoterapi
* pakar onkologi sinaran : yang bertanggungjawab ke atas radioterapi
* Pakar pemakanan : yang mencadangkan pemakanan paling baik untuk diikuti semasa anda
dirawat dan semasa pemulihan
* juru rawat : yang membantu anda melalui semua peringkat pengalaman di hospital semasa melawan kanser. ~siapa lagi yang hendak tolong layan kalau dalam hospital kan..ahakz~

Apabila melakukan check-up/pemeriksaan, doktor yang bertanggungjawab akan memeriksa bahagian-bahagian otak yang berbeza berfungsi. Ini mungkin termasuk memeriksa refleks diri contohnya, pantulan lutut (bila diketuk..), kekuatan otot-otot lengan (bukan nya suruh angkat berat melampau pun) dan kaki serta keupayaan diri merasa cucukan jarum (sila berdoa supaya mereka tidak menggunakan jarum yang bapak-besar-gila-menakutkan ye..haha) dan ujian untuk membezakan rasa panas dan sejuk pada kulit badan. Mungkin juga selepas itu akan dibuat latihan mental, seperti membuat pengiraan mudah secara mental.

Kemudian, doktor akan melihat ke dalam mata dengan menggunakan oftalmoskop, untuk melihat bahagian hujung saraf optik. Saraf ini menyambungkan mata terus kepada otak dan ia mungkin membengkak sedikit jika suatu tumor sedang menekan otak anda dan menambah tekanan di dalam tengkorak (tekanan intrakranial).

Dua ujian utama, skan CT dan MRI, akan digunakan untuk mengesan sekiranya ada tumor otak dan ini untuk membantu doktor merancang rawatan paling berkesan bagi tuan empunya badan.


Truth is, everyone's going to hurt you.
You just have to find the ones worth suffering for.

- Bob Marley-

If we want to talk about worth..
is it worth dying for someone
who doesn't give a damn about what you feel?
who doesn't care about status of your health..are you good or just dying sick?
who doesn't take noted your feeling when they broke your heart?
or who rather being a stalker than come up to you and say
"hey, i love you and don't want to let you go"
or say their sorry for not being good enough for you?
or just yet to learn to appreciate you enough?
is it hard?to make this life full of happiness?
is it worth being a jerk and let people hurt you damn much?

is it possible when we just want to live happily,
we feel everything we do in name of love
are good enough..
worth enough
especially for someone who ..maybe..doesn't even realize that?
is it worth for life?

is it worth..
you hurt yourself
because you don't want to hurt the one you loved
but then they hurt you back??
worse than you ever think they would?
is it worth..
you still love them
hope for them
when you nearly come to the end
and they don't even want to know
or just don't care
that in some case
they might lose you
and when the time come
maybe it is worth
when you are six feet under the ground
they come and look for you..
just you.

- Umi Narima -

Friday, May 21, 2010

what about now?

"It's funny how a person can break your heart, and you can still love
them with all the little pieces"

Thursday, May 20, 2010

perlu kamu

bila perlu
lafazkan rindu
ku lafazkan pada mu
tapi adakah kamu
rasa begitu
pada ku

kini ku perlu kamu
sangat perlu
teramat perlu
untuk kamu
fahami diri ku
bila waktu
ini sangat menguji ku
dan juga menguji kamu
cinta yang dilafazkan pada ku
adakah masih setia di dalam hati mu
seperti dulu
tidak berubah dimakan waktu
atau hanya tinggal sebagai kenangan lalu?

sangat perlu kamu
di mana kamu
tolong ku..
ku tak kuat lagi seperti dulu
untuk berjuang seperti seorang ratu
kini hanya tinggal cebisan dari itu
maka aku perlu kamu
sangat perlu
untuk menempuh sukar nya dugaan ku

tolong ku..
sangat sangat perlu kamu
untuk fahami diri ku
selamatkan ku
di mana kamu

ku perlu kan mu
semangat mu
sebagai semangat ku
kasih mu penyeri hari ku
membuat senyuman terukir selalu

ku perlu kamu
untuk menemani ku
menempuh hari hari yang mendatang merempuh ku
bersama cabaran mengagah kekuatan ku
datang menguji tak kira waktu
tanpa belas kasihan walau sedikit pun untuk ku

tolong ku..
selamatkan ku..
ku perlu kamu..

"Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu ; Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahui.." [al-Baqarah:216]

Ada yang kata hidup ini memang susah tetapi bukanlah sampai tahap menyusahkan. Tetapi seperti yang kita semua ketahui bahawa hidup ini memang penuh dengan dugaan dan masalah. Allah SWT menjadikan hidup kita ini penuh dengan dugaan dengan pelbagai ujian dan cabaran yang kadang kala kita sendiri seperti terasa tidak mampu untuk menerimanya.

Namun ramai antara kita tidak sedar hidup ini susah. ~boleh pula macam tu kan?~ Ada yang sedar tetapi ramai yang melarikan diri daripada kesusahan ini. Manakala selalunya pakar-pakar motivasi pula menanamkan pemikiran kita semua bahawa hidup ini senang. Lalu ramai yang mengelak daripada masalah yang datang atau pun melarikan diri ~walking away~ tidak menyelesaikannya kerana tidak mahu menerima hakikat bahawa hidup ini susah. Jadi, salah siapa agaknya keadaan ini? Salah mereka yang cuba membantu dengan mengatakan hidup ini tidak susah atau salah mereka yang seakan tidak mahu menerima bahawa hidup ini sememangnya susah? Itu pun susah untuk kita tentukannya bukan?

Allah berfirman (maksudnya): (Orang-orang takwa ialah) orang-orang yang sabar (tabah), lurus, benar, tetap taat, menafkahkan hartanya (pada jalan Allah) dan memohon ampunan (kepada Allah) pada waktu sahur. (Ali Imran: 17).

Barah atau lebih dikenali sebagai Tumor otak merupakan ketumbuhan yang berasal dari sel-sel otak atau dari struktur di sekelilingnya.

Barah/Tumor otak ini diklasifikasikan kepada:

  • Tumor Benigna (bukan kanser).
info: Tumor benigna tumbuh secara perlahan-lahan dan ia tidak merebak ke bahagian-bahagian lain dalam badan. Jika tumor ini dapat dibuang dengan jayanya, ia tidak lagi menimbulkan apa-apa masalah. Walau bagaimanapun, jika tumor itu terletak berdekatan dengan mana-mana struktur otak yang penting, ia boleh menimbulkan ancaman kesihatan yang serius kerana sesuatu ketumbuhan yang membesar boleh menyebabkan beberapa komplikasi atau boleh mengancam nyawa. Kadangkala ianya menimbulkan kesulitan untuk dibuang kerana kedudukannya itu.
  • Tumor Malignan (kanser).
info: Tumor malignan pula dengan sel-sel ketumbuhan ini berkemampuan untuk merebak ke bahagian-bahagian badan yang lain (kanser). Ia menyerang dan merebak dengan begitu cepat. Walau bagaimanapun, tumor otak malignan ini jarang sekali merebak keluar dari sistem saraf pusat1.

Terdapat 2 kategori tumor otak :
  • Tumor otak primer - tumor ini berasal atau tumbuh dari otak.Ianya mungkin tumbuh dan terbentuk di sesuatu tempat yang kecil atau ia boleh merebak ke kawasan-kawasan berdekatan.
  • Tumor otak sekunder (dikenali sebagai metastatik) - ia berasal atau merebak dari bahagian-bahagian badan yang lain seperti paru-paru, buah pinggang, payudara dan kulit yang kemudiannya merebak melalui saluran darah ke otak untuk membentuk tumor otak sekunder (seperti yang dinyatakan tadi tempat asalnya ialah kanser paru-paru, payudara, usus dan kulit).
Tumor secara langsungnya boleh memusnahkan sel-sel otak dan secara tidak langsungnya memusnahkan sel-sel apabila berlakunya keradangan, mampatan akibat ketumbuhan tumor, kebengkakan dan peningkatan tekanan dalam otak (tekanan intrakranium).

Tumor ini boleh menyerang mana-mana satu dari 3 bahagian otak:
  • serebrum
  • serebelum
  • pangkal otak
Bagaimana terbentuknya tumor ini?

Tubuh manusia terdiri dari sel-sel. Sel-sel ini tumbuh dan membiak dengan cara yang tersusun untuk membentuk sel-sel baru dan mengekalkan badan yang sihat supaya ia dapat berfungsi dengan baik. Apabila sel-sel ini hilang kemampuan untuk mengawal pertumbuhannya, ia akan tumbuh dengan bebasnya. Sel-sel yang tumbuh berlebihan tanpa dikawal ini akhirnya menjadi tumor.

Organ otak mengawal beberapa bahagian dan fungsi dalam badan. Otak mengawal proses ingatan dan pembelajaran, deria (mendengar, melihat, menghidu, merasa dan menyentuh) dan emosi. Ia juga mengawal bahagian-bahagian badan yang lain termasuk otot-otot, organ dan saluran darah. Otak dilindungi oleh tengkorak, meninges (lapisan yang terdiri dari 3 membran) dan juga oleh cecair serebrospina. Jika tumor didapati di mana-mana bahagian ini, ia akan mempengaruhi kemampuan otak untuk berfungsi dengan normal.

Apakah penyebab tumor otak?

Penyebab tumor otak tidak diketahui, tetapi para pengkaji telah cuba mencari jawapan kepada masalah ini. Terdapat banyak bidang yang diberi tumpuan oleh para penyelidik untuk mengenal pasti sebab-sebab berlakunya tumor otak ini. Faktor-faktor seperti genetik, keturunan, persekitaran dan bahan-bahan kimia adalah antara bidang-bidang yang diberi perhatian serius.

Faktor-faktor yang boleh meningkatkan risiko tumor otak?

Tidak terdapat faktor-faktor risiko yang jelas di kalangan pesakit-pesakit yang menghidap tumor otak. Dengan mengkaji beberapa kes pesakit tumor otak, didapati sesetengah jenis tumor otak lebih kerap berlaku di kalangan pekerja-pekerja kilang penapis minyak, industri-industri pembuatan bahan-bahan getah dan dadah. Ahli-ahli kimia dan para pengawet adalah antara mereka yang termasuk dalam golongan ini. ~mengikut kajian yang telah dijalankan~

Bagaimanakah insidens penyakit ini?

Tumor otak boleh berlaku pada semua lapisan umur, walau bagaimanapun, kajian telah menunjukkan bahawa terdapat 2 kumpulan umur yang lebih biasa mendapat masalah ini, iaitu kanak-kanak (3 -12 tahun) dan golongan dewasa (40 -70 tahun). ~tapi,kalau Allah dah nak uji , umur berapa pun boleh kena juga kan?~

Apakah gejala-gejala tumor otak?

Tumor otak akan menimbulkan pelbagai gejala. Ia bergantung kepada bahagian mana ianya berlaku. Sakit kepala merupakan gejala tumor otak yang paling biasa. Gejala-gejala berikutnya mungkin merupakan petanda tumor kerana ia boleh meningkatkan tekanan di dalam otak:

  • Sakit kepala yang teruk terutamanya di sebelah paginya berbanding dengan waktu tengah hari.
  • Sakit kepala yang berterusan dan diikuti dengan loya dan muntah.
  • Sakit kepala yang menjadi semakin teruk ketika batuk, bersin dan menunduk.
Perubahan tingkah laku seperti bersikap 'tidak apa', hilang ingatan, hilang tumpuan dan kekeliruan mungkin merupakan tanda-tanda tumor otak. Ini kerana setiap bahagian otak mengawal fungsi-fungsi tertentu. Jadi, apabila terdapat tumor di sesuatu bahagian maka ia akan mempengaruhi keupayaan fungsi di bahagian tersebut. Bagi sesetengah kes, jika pesakit terjatuh ia boleh mencetuskan sawan yang disebabkan oleh tumor. Pengesanan dan rawatan awal mungkin boleh meningkatkan kadar kemandirian pesakit. Jika gejala masih berterusan berjumpalah doktor pakar neurologi atau doktor pakar kanser.

Bagi bayi yang menghidapi kanser selalunya menunjukkan gejala-gejala berikut :

  • Ubun-ubun membonjol (bukaan yang tedapat pada tengkorak disebabkan oleh proses penulangan yang tidak lengkap).
  • Lilitan kepala membesar.
  • Tidak terdapatnya refleks merah di dalam mata.
Di kalangan kanak-kanak, gejala berikut mungkin berlaku:
  • Loya dan muntah.
  • Gangguan penglihatan seperti penglihatan berganda, juling, kebutaan.
  • Gangguan makan.
  • Sebelah tangan menjadi lemah dan kekok.
  • Perubahan pada gaya berjalan (berjalan terencot-encot), ataksia (terhuyung-hayang).
  • Kesukaran untuk berjalan.
  • Keletihan dan terasa lemah badan.
  • Peningkatan berat badan.
  • Perubahan pada endokrin.
Orang dewasa pula akan menunjukkan beberapa gejala seperti berikut:
  • Kerap diserang sakit kepala, loya atau muntah.
  • Epilepsi (sawan, kekejangan otot dan tidak sedarkan diri).
  • Gangguan percakapan.
  • Kesukaran untuk menggerakkan kaki dan tangan.
  • Hilang ingatan ke atas hal-hal yang terbaru dan kemorosotan proses mental.
  • Hilang penglihatan (terutamanya penglihatan periferi).
  • Hilang daya imbangan terutamanya jika ia dikaitkan dengan sakit kepala, kelemahan atau kekebasan sebelah badan.
  • Gangguan ingatan atau perubahan personaliti.
Apakah yang selalunya dilakukan selepas pembedahan dan apakah komplikasi yang seringkali terjadi?

Selalunya doktor akan memberi terapi ubat steroid atau ubat antikonvulsi atau kedua-duanya sekali sebelum atau selepas pembedahan otak. Ubat ini berguna untuk mengatasi gejala-gejala yang berkaitan dengan bengkak otak yang selalunya berlaku selepas pembedahan. Pesakit mungkin akan mengalami beberapa kesan sampingan sementara, seperti tekanan darah tinggi, pengekalan air, jangkitan, kesukaran untuk tidur di waktu malam, perubahan mood dan kemurungan. Sekali-sekala paras gula dalam darah akan meningkat.

Untuk memantau kesan-kesan sampingan ini, dapatkan pemeriksaan doktor selalu. Kesan-kesan sampingan ini adalah sementara dan akan beransur-ansur hilang. Adalah perlu bagi supaya sentiasa membawa bersama kad steroid (dapatkan dari jururawat atau doktor) ketika masih dirawat dengan ubat tersebut. Ini perlu, kerana, pesakit tidak boleh menghentikan dengan sendiri pengambilan ubat steroid ini tanpa nasihat doktor. Perbuatan begini boleh membahayakan diri. Juga perlu ingat bahawa selepas terapi sinaran, mungkin terasa sangat letih. Berehat adalah penting. Di samping itu, terapi sinaran ini boleh menimbulkan masalah kulit di bahagian yang dirawat. Kulit kelihatan seperti terkena selaran matahari, merah dan gatal. Adalah penting mendedahkan kawasan yang dirawat itu kepada udara seberapa lama yang boleh dan lindunginya dari cahaya matahari. Doktor mungkin mencadangkan penggunaan ubat salap dalam bentuk losyen atau krim. Ubat-ubat lain adalah dilarang tanpa nasihat doktor.

Berikutan dari rawatan sinaran atau kemoterapi ini, pesakit tumor otak mempunyai risiko mendapat penyakit leukemia atau tumor tersebut mungkin berulang kembali di kemudian hari nanti. Mata juga mungkin turut terlibat, yang membawa kepada terjadinya katarak.

Lawatan susulan adalah penting. Selepas pembedahan atau rawatan-rawatan lain doktor mungkin meminta pesakit melalui beberapa ujian untuk mengetahui keberkesanan rawatan yang telah diberi dan memantau sebarang kemungkinan berlaku semula tumor tersebut . Doktor juga akan memaklumkan bilakah prosedur-prosedur pengimbasan atau ujian-ujian lain perlu dijalankan. Jika pesakit tidak memiliki maklumat ini, sila hubungi atau berjumpa doktor. Juga, jika terdapat apa-apa masalah kesihatan yang luar biasa, maklumkan kepada doktor segera.

Apakah rawatan yang ada untuk penyakit ini?

Dadah atau ubat-ubatan yang sering digunakan untuk merawat tumor otak termasuklah:
  • Dadah kemoterapi
  • Ubat steroid
  • Ubat anti-konvulsi
  • Diuretik
  • Analgesik
  • Antasid atau penyekat histamin
  • Kemoterapi
Kemoterapi menggunakan dadah-dadah tertentu untuk memusnahkan sel-sel tumor. Dadah yang digunakan dalam kemoterapi akan menyekat keupayaan sel-sel tumor untuk membiak dengan menghenti atau mengganggu putaran selnya (pola biasa pembentukan sel). Kemoterapi akan memberi kesan kepada kedua-dua jenis sel, yang normal dan yang bertumor, walaupun kesan sampingan setiap dadah itu berbeza-beza. Ia seringkali digunakan di kalangan pesakit kanak-kanak untuk melambatkan terapi sinaran kerana otak mereka mudah rosak bila terdedah kepada sinaran. Ia juga digunakan untuk merawat tumor yang berulang. Prosedur ini mungkin dilakukan secara bersendirian atau digabungkan untuk merawat tumor malignan.


Ubat steroid seperti dexamethasone dan ubat antikonvulsi digunakan untuk pesakit tumor otak, jika perlu. Steroid ini digunakan untuk mengurangkan keradangan tisu-tisu serta mengawal kebengkakan yang terjadi di sekeliling tumor otak. Ubat anti konvulsi seperti phenytoin diberi untuk mencegah serangan sawan dan selalunya diberi selepas pembedahan otak dijalankan. Ubat-ubatan lain yang mungkin juga diberi termasuklah:
  • Ubat diuretik osmosis seperti mannitol untuk mengecilkan bengkak otak.
  • Analgesik atau ubat menahan sakit untuk mengawal kesakitan.
  • Antasid atau penyekat histamin untuk mencegah ulser stres.

Rawatan berikut merupakan kaedah-kaedah utama yang dilakukan:
  • Pembedahan
  • Terapi sinaran
  • Imunoterapi
  • Pembedahan
Pembedahan merupakan rawatan yang sangat biasa dilaksana untuk pesakit tumor otak. Tujuannya adalah untuk mengeluarkan keseluruhan tumor. Sebelum sesuatu pembedahan itu dilakukan, pesakit perlu melalui beberapa ujian tertentu seperti imbasan CT, MRI atau PET bagi menentukan kedudukan sebenar tumor tersebut.

Terdapat beberapa prosedur pembedahan:
  • Biopsi - sedikit sampel akan diambil untuk membolehkan diagnosis yang tepat dibuat.
  • Kraniotomi - di mana doktor pakar bedah akan memotong sebahagian dari tulang tengkorak untuk membedah otak yang terlibat.
Sejenis prosedur penyimpangan dilakukan untuk melegakan tekanan dalam otak (interkranial) dengan mengalirkan cecair yang berlebihan atau yang tersekat. Ini kerana bagi sesetengah kes, pesakit akan mengalami tekanan interkranial yang tinggi. Selepas mengeluarkan tumor, tulang yang dipotong tadi akan diletak kembali atau sekeping logam atau fabrik akan diletak untuk menutup lubang yang ditebuk atau bukaan yang dibuat pada tengkorak. Bagi tumor otak yang telah merebak, pembedahan dijalankan untuk membuang kesemua ketumbuhan setempat. Tumor yang telah merebak ke tisu-tisu otak mungkin juga akan dibuang untuk mengurangkan saiznya. Walau bagaimanapun, jika terlalu banyak perebakan itu telah dikesan, rawatan mungkin hanya ditumpukan kepada usaha untuk melegakan kesakitan atau mengurangkan gejala-gejalanya sahaja.

Terapi Sinaran

Prosedur ini melibatkan penggunaan x-ray yang dihasilkan dari sebuah mesin yang dipanggil linear acceleretor atau menggunakan mesin kobalt untuk memusnahkan sel-sel kanser dan mengecutkan tumor. Lazimnya, prosedur ini melibatkan bukan sahaja tisu-tisu tumor tetapi juga tisu-tisu yang sihat. Walau bagaimanapun, tisu-tisu yang normal ini akan memulih semula dirinya. Terapi sinaran ini boleh diberikan kepada pesakit sebelum ataupun selepas kemoterapi, sebelum atau selepas pembedahan atau diberikan bersama dengan rawatan dadah.

Biasanya, ia dijalankan selepas pembedahan jika tumor tidak dikeluarkan kesemuanya ataupun untuk mencegah sel-sel tumor dari merebak ke lain-lain bahagian badan. Otak kita hanya mampu menerima sinaran pada jumlah tertentu sahaja. Doktor pakar onkologi akan menentukan paras dos sinaran yang selamat untuk merawat sesuatu tumor. Sebelum rawatan sinaran ini dimulakan, seseorang doktor akan memeriksa rekod-rekod perubatan pesakit bagi membolehkannya merancang sesuatu pelan rawatan berasaskan keadaan pesakit tersebut. Doktor mungkin juga akan menjalankan pemeriksaan menggunakan pengimbas tertentu atau x-ray untuk menentukan kedudukan tumor yang tepat.


Kaedah ini masih lagi di peringkat percubaan klinikal. Ia menggunakan bahan-bahan yang dihasilkan oleh badan kita sendiri ataupun dibuat di dalam makmal untuk merangsang, menghantar atau mengekalkan ketahanan semulajadi badan menentang penyakit. Ia bertindak dengan mengubah persekitaran biologi atau gelagat sel-sel tumor menjadikannya sukar untuk tumbuh membiak.


Pertolongan cemas mungkin diperlukan ketika atau untuk pesakit yang tidak sedarkan diri atau sawan:

Untuk pesakit yang tidak sedarkan diri, yang perlu dilakukan ialah:
  • Dapatkan bantuan seseorang untuk memanggil perkhidmatan kecemasan.
  • Periksa ABC pesakit - A (airway)- saluran udara, B (breathing) - pernafasan dan C (circulation) iaitu peredaran darah. Jika pesakit tidak bernafas atau nadi serta denyutan jantungnya tidak dapat dikesan atau dirasai, mulakan tatacara CPR - resusitasi kardiopulmonari (jika anda dilatih).
  • Pindahkan pesakit ke tempat yang tidak merbahaya.
  • Longgarkan pakaiannya yang ketat terutamanya di sekeliling leher mangsa.
  • Baringkan mangsa pada kedudukan pemulihan.
  • Biarkan mangsa sentiasa berada dalam keadaan panas sehingga bantuan perubatan tiba.
Untuk sawan, lakukan perkara-perkara berikut:
  • Dapatkan bantuan seseorang untuk memanggil perkhidmatan kecemasan.
  • Baringkan pesakit di atas lantai atau tanah.
  • Letakkan ia dalam keadaan mengiring bagi mencegah muntahnya memasuki paru-paru.
  • Jangan masukkan apa-apa benda ke dalam mulut mangsa.
  • Longgarkan segala pakaian mangsa yang ketat.
  • Pastikan mangsa tidak mencederakan dirinya sendiri.
  • Setelah sawannya beransur pulih letakkannya dalam kedudukan yang lebih selesa.
  • Jika mangsa bukanlah seorang pesakit epilepsi hantarkannya ke hospital yang berdekatan
Apakah jenis ujian yang dilakukan untuk mengesan tumor otak?

Jika doktor mengesyaki seseorang pesakit itu mendapat tumor otak melalui sejarah perubatan yang diambil atau melalui gejala yang berlaku, ia mungkin menasihati pesakit untuk melalui beberapa ujian atau pemeriksaan bagi menentukan diagnosis.

Berikut ialah beberapa pemeriksaan yang biasanya dilakukan untuk mendiagnos tumor otak:

Pemeriksaan Neurologi: ini termasuk ujian mental dan pemeriksaan mata, ujian pendengaran, kuasa dan pemeriksaan saraf kranial, ujian kederiaan dan refleks kaki dan tangan. Ia juga melakukan ujian-ujian untuk memeriksa tahap kewaspadaan, refleks, imbangan dan koordinasi, kekuatan otot, pendengaran, kederiaan dan pergerakan. ~done~

Pemeriksaaan menggunakan alat pengimbas tomografi berkomputer (CT Scan -Computed Tomographic Scan)
: Alat ini merupakan sejenis x-ray yang menggunakan komputer untuk memaparkan gambar struktur otak dengan terperinci. Teknik ini akan membantu seseorang doktor untuk mengesan kedudukan dan saiz tumor berkenaan. Ia juga dapat mengesan sesuatu kebengkakan, pendarahan dan lain-lain keadaan yang berkaitan. ~done~

Pengimejan Resonan Magnetik atau MRI (Magnetic Resonance Imaging): Pengimbas MRI menggunakan gelombang magnet untuk menghasilkan gambar otak. Ia lazimnya dapat menghasilkan gambar tumor otak dengan lebih jelas. Ini akan membantu seseorang doktor untuk membentuk imej 3 dimensi tumor berkenaan.

Biopsi: Kaedah pemeriksaan ini dilakukan untuk mengesahkan kewujudan tumor otak. Di samping itu juga, ia akan menentukan jenis histologi tumor itu. Sedikit sampel akan diambil dari tumor tersebut bertujuan untuk menentukan diagnosis yang sebenar.

Pengimbas PET (Positron Emission Tomography): Alat pengimbas PET menggunakan bahan gula yang dirawat dengan bahan radioaktif - deoksiglukosa. Bahan ini disuntik ke dalam vena pesakit dan proses pengimbasan dilakukan. Tatacara pengimbasan ini mengambil masa antara 1 hingga 4 jam. Pola gula yang diserapkan ke dalam sel otak akan diamati untuk mengesahkan kewujudan sel-sel tumor. ~woaa~

Ujian-ujian lain:
  • Filem x-ray kepala dan tengkorak.
  • Elektroensefalogram (EEG) sejenis alat digunakan untuk merakam aktiviti pengaliran elektrik ke beberapa bahagian otak yang dipanggil alat ensefalograf. Alat ini akan mengesan struktur tumor di dalam otak.
  • Pengimbas otak radioisotop.
Apa prognosis bagi tumor otak?

Peluang untuk baik atau sembuh (prognosis) dan pilihan rawatan yang akan diberi banyak bergantung kepada jenis tumor otak yang terjadi dan keadaan kesihatan pesakit keseluruhannya. Malangnya, kadang-kadang tumor benigna pun boleh menimbulkan masalah kerana tumor yang terjadi itu boleh menyebabkan tekanan dan kerosakan pada otak. Secara globalnya, tumor otak yang malignan di kalangan orang dewasa tidak boleh disembuhkan. Kebanyakan mereka yang dirawat akan meninggal dunia dalam masa 2 tahun dan bagi mereka yang enggan dirawat akan meninggal lebih awal lagi. Prognosisnya di kalangan pesakit yang melalui pembedahan adalah lebih baik terutamanya selepas tumor itu dibuang sepenuhnya.

Bagaimanakah kita boleh mencegah dari berlakunya tumor otak ini?

Tidak ada sebarang garis panduan atau peraturan untuk mencegah tumor otak dari berlaku. Cuma kita perlu mengawasi gejala-gejala yang timbul yang mungkin menandakan wujudnya tumor di dalam otak. Jika ini berlaku bertindaklah segera dengan berjumpa doktor dan dapatkan pemeriksaan yang diperlukan.

don't give up!!

wahai org2 yg beriman!
mohonlah pertolongan (kpd Allah) dgn sabar dan solat,
sungguh, Allah beserta org2 yg sabar. (al-baqarah: 153)

Fall seven times, stand up eight! – Japanese Proverbs Hope
gives you the strength to keep going when you feel like giving up.
Don’t ever quit believing in yourself.
As long as you believe you can,
you will have a reason for trying.
Don’t let anyone hold your happiness in their hands,
hold it in your own,
so it will always be within your reach.
Don’t measure success or failure by material wealth,
but by how you feel.
Our feelings determine the riches in our lives.
Don’t let bad moments overcome you.
Be patient, and they will pass.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for help,
we all need it from time to time.
Don’t runaway from Love,
but towards love
because it is our deepest joy.
Don’t wait for what you want to come to you.
Go after it with all that you are
knowing that life will meet you half way.
Don’t feel like you’ve lost when plans and dreams fall short of your hopes.
Anytime you learn something new about yourself,
or about life,
you have progressed.
Don’t do anything that takes away from your self-respect.
Feeling GOOD about yourself
is essential to feeling GOOD about life.
Don’t ever forget how to laugh
or be too proud to cry.
It is by doing both that we live life to the FULLEST.


I`ve been waiting all day for ya babe
So won`t cha come and sit and talk to me
And tell me how we`re gonna be together always
Hope you know when it`s late at night
I Hold on to my pillow tight
And think of how you promised me forever
(I never thought that anyone)
Could make me feel this way
(Now that you`re here boy all I want)
Is just a chance to say

Get Out, (leave) right now,
It`s the end of you and me
It`s too late (now) and I can`t wait for you to be gone
`Cause I know about her (who) and I wonder (why) how I bought all the lies
You said that you would treat me right but you was just a waste of time (waste of time)

Tell me why you`re looking so confused
When I`m the one who didn`t know the truth
How could you ever be so cold
To go behind my back and call my friend
Boy you must have gone and bumped your head
Because you left her number on your phone
(So now after all is said and done)
Maybe I`m the one to blame but
(To think that you could be the one)
Well it didn`t work out that way

Get Out, (leave) right now,
It`s the end of you and me
It`s too late (now) and I can`t wait for you to be gone
`Cause I know about her (who) and I wonder (why) how I bought all the lies
You said that you would treat me right but you was just a waste of time (waste of time)

I wanted you right here with me but I have no choice you`ve gotta leave
Because my heart is breakin`
With every word I`m sayin`
I gave up everything I had
On something that just wouldn`t last
But I refuse to cry
No tears will fall from these
Ooooh, ooooh
Get out

A girl asked a boy:

(Girl)- Do you think I'm pretty?
(Boy)- NO
(Girl)- Do you want to be with me forever?
(Boy)- NO.... maybe...depends
(Girl)- Would you cry if I walked away?

Again the boy said NO
She heard enough and was hurt
she walked away
and tears ran down her face.

The boy grabbed her arm and said:

(Boy)- You're not pretty, you're BEAUTIFUL
(Boy)- I don't want to be with you forever, I NEED to be with you forever
(Boy)- and I wouldn't cry if you walked away... I would DIE!!!!
(Boy whisper to her)- Please stay with me...
(Girl whisper back to him)- I will...

p/s: isn't that the sweetest ever? heart melt.. :P

Sunday, May 16, 2010

love poem


Author: Joyce Hemsley

The first time ever I fell for you
it was in the spring by the calm blue sea
for both of us ~ love was so new
and in our simple minds, it was true
love was a melody.

We met each other day after day
and clung together desperately,
and I was almost ill inside,
my passion could not be denied
love was a rhapsody.

Our love was of the deepest kind
you opened up your mind to me
and ran to me ~ O love insane!
excitement rushed through every vein
through the heart and soul of me.

This was the time I lost my head
your handsome face was all to me,
and then ~ one beautiful morn we wed
you rescued me from a lonely bed
and gave your life to me.

16/5/2010~ (^.^)

Monday, May 10, 2010

jika kau tiada

Suatu ketika dahulu
Ku tersesat dalam hidup
sehingga muncul menjelma
rasa sayang kepadamu

Rupanya inilah cinta
Nikmatnya baru ku rasa
Tak terbayang bagaimana
hidup jika kau tiada

Jika Kau Tiada
Pada siapa kan ku
dendang syair cinta
Dan dakapan mana
harus ku bersandar
Meraih kasih yang ku perlu
Jika Kau Tiada
Wajah siapa harus
ku tenung bila mencari ketenangan
Arakian suara siapa kan membisikkan
kata-kata cinta

Tak tersusunnya kata
Azimat kau bawa
Pastinya ku kan sengsara
oh jika kau tiada

Tak ku kenal cinta sebelum kau hadir
Tak ku tahu erti rindu
Kini doa ku termakbul
ku tagih cintamu selalu
Walau ramai ku kenali
Tiada seikhlasmu kasih
Salam sayang kau ku cinta
Hanya nyawa kan bisa
memisahkan kita

Jika Kau Tiada
Hilanglah bintang di langit yang berkelip
Memelita malam yang hiba
Hilanglah keajaiban kelapan di dunia
Jika Kau Tiada
Sentuhan siapa yang
mampu membuh luka di hatiku
Lantarannya tawar naluri hati untuk jatuh cinta lagi

Jikalau ku termampu
memiliki dunia
Semua tak bermakna
bagi ku jika
kau tiada

Tak ku kenal cinta sebelum kau hadir
Tak ku tahu erti rindu
Kini doa ku termakbul
ku tagih cintamu selalu
Walau ramai ku kenali
Tiada seikhlasmu kasih
Salam sayang kau ku cinta
Hanya nyawa kan bisav
memisahkan kita


Sunday, May 9, 2010


Self-injury among teens is more common than thought, a new study suggests.

Some 46 percent of high school students surveyed said they had purposely injured themselves more than once in the past year. Among those who said they had injured themselves, more than half said they had cut or burned their skin or given themselves a tattoo or engaged in other acts the researchers labeled as serious. Others engaged in comparatively minor acts such as biting themselves or picking at areas of the body until they bled.

Many parents are unaware that teens engage in "cutting" and other forms of self-injury. Parents feel distressed and often helpless when they discover their teen has been practicing self-mutilation. Both males and females can be affected, but we see it more often in girls.

Then teen will cut herself on parts of her body she will then keep covered up. While cutting is the most common form of self-injury, burning, head banging and scratching are also common. Other forms include biting, skin-picking, hair-pulling, hitting the body with objects or hitting objects with the body.

This behavior is a way of dealing with emotional distress. It is almost as though creating physical pain eclipses the emotional pain the person is feeling. Often one who self-injures feels isolated and alone.

It is important not to be angry or judgmental towards a teen that is engaging in this behavior. That will only serve to increase their sense of shame and isolation. It may also lead to an increase in the behavior.

While our first instinct may be to try to get the individual to stop the behavior immediately, this may only increase his or her level of stress. What is needed is to help the person develop productive coping strategies, so there is no longer a need to resort to self-injury.

The person who self -injures is not psychotic, nor suicidal. Interestingly, self-injury is a maladaptive coping mechanism, a way to stay alive. People who inflict physical harm on themselves are often doing it in an attempt to maintain psychological integrity -- it's a way to keep from killing themselves. They release unbearable feelings and pressures through self-harm, and that eases their urge toward suicide.

If the person seems willing to talk about it, you can explore what is causing the emotional distress, and provide support for creating new outlets for painful emotions.

If communication is difficult or unwelcome, then a doctor or therapist should be involved.

Do you know a teen who is struggling with cutting or other self-harm behaviors?

What is self-harm behavior?

Self-injury, self-harm, self-inflicted violence or self-mutilation is an act of physically hurting yourself on purpose in an effort to cope with an overwhelming and distressing feeling or situation.

Self-harm is clearly a sign of a troubled person. A common misperception, however, is that teens who self-injure are cutting themselves in an active attempt to commit suicide. The opposite appears to be true: Most studies find that self-injury is often undertaken as a means of avoiding suicide. While some people who self-mutilate do attempt suicide, it is usually because of the emotional problems and pain that lie behind their desire to self-harm, not the cutting itself.

Self-injury in teens may appear to be attention-seeking. However, this behavior is more likely attention-needing. A person engaged in self-harm needs to be heard with empathy and care. Most adolescents who self-injure keep their behavior a secret for fear of others’ negative reactions.

Acts of self-inflicted violence are:
  • Done to oneself
  • Performed by oneself
  • Physically violent
  • Not suicidal
  • Intentional and purposeful
A Method of Coping. Most commonly, self-harming behavior is a coping mechanism to deal with emotional pain, stress, or trauma. Broad research indicates that there is a strong correlation between self-inflicted violence and history of child physical and sexual abuse.

Self-injury helps some people feel better by giving them a way to physically express and release their tension. It lessens a desire to commit suicide. It ends the feeling of numbness. Cutting can validate teen’s feelings, creating a ‘real’ pain that is easier to cope with than the hidden emotional pain.Self-inflicted violence is used as a way to temporarily feel better.

Self-punishment. Some teens believe that they deserve to be punished or believe that self-injury will prevent some punishment from an outside source. Adolescents who engage in self-inflicted violence are often overly critical of themselves. Excessive self-criticism leads to feelings of shame and blame, which lead in turn to self-punishment. Some teens who self-punish themselves do it due to history of abuse in their life. Although hurting themselves might make teens feel better at that moment, self-injury does not alter their past. It does not teach them or help them to deal with their past in a healthy way.

Here are the most common forms of teens hurting their bodies:
  • Cutting
  • Burning
  • Excessive scratching
  • Hair pulling
  • Intentional bone breaking
  • Hitting or Bruising
  • Interference with wound healing

Self-injury is a behavior that over time becomes habitual, chronic and repetitive. Like any other bad habit, even though other people think the person should stop, most self-injurers have a hard time just saying “no” to their behavior – even when they realize it is unhealthy. Once adolescent is in the cycle of self-injury, the smallest things might trigger self-harm behaviors.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

mencuri masa

Time ni masing-masing tengah tension sebenarnya
dengan kerja yang berlambak-lambak dan waktu yang tidak mencukupi
but still sempat lagi nak 'mencuri masa' menenangkan diri *konon-kononnya* lah hasil menenangkan diri di tasik
dan juga di Secret Recipe Sri Damansara
*singgah Secret Recipe tu time on the way nak jumpa E ..*

ceria (^.^)

Aida Byzurra=Angelina Jolie wannabe?ahakz

Possing cara apa nih?huahua

Dah macam cover album zaman dolu dolu..

there's the three of us..opss, jangan lupa Mr.Joe belakang tu (n.n)

*maafkan keadaan video yang tidak memuaskan..Nisa..sila baiki cara anda..ahahha :P *

sementara tunggu Farah beli kek..

craziness.. :-P

comel kan..ahahah
*Aida..kenapa reaksi muka sama je dengan yang tadi?*

Sunday, May 2, 2010

for you

i remember the steps..
first i started with the answer with option d.)
somehow now & then i often fill the empty space with the 'l' word in the option b.)
then followed by the 'm' word in the option c.)
and it leads to the 'w' word in e.)
i tried not to mix with the option f.)
and never felt the option a.)
finally then i realize..
i answered all the above.. :)

hate + love = forever
you just can't separate it both.. (n.n)

"you" means the world to me.. (^.^)

it is awkward..
it is unexpected..
but when it happened..
you just can't say a word

sadness is a part of it..
eventhough we tried to avoid it..
eventhough we tried our best..

the hardest part to accept by someone who's hoping
is when the other half is leaving
when the heart still hoping
still wishing
but the truth is
the love is missing
and all become nothing.. :,(

what doesn't kill you
makes you stronger..

love is the best thing
hurt is the worse ever
you have to start thinking
don't even dare to come near
if you are not strong enough to participating
if you think you can never bear
the pain in the risk taking
in the battle for the love forever.. (",) you..

miss you

oh-h-h, hey yea yea yea, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

It's been too long, and I'm lost without you
what am I gonna do, said I been needing you, wantin' you
wonderin' if your the same, and who's been with you
isn't your heart still mine, I wanna cry sometimes(I miss you)

(verse 1)
Off to college, yes you went away
straight from high school, you up and left me.
We were close friends, also lovers.
Did everything, for one another.
Now your gone and I'm lost without you here now.
But I know I gotta live and make it some how.

Come back to me
can you feel me
hear me, callin'
for you (cause it's..)

It's been to long, and I'm lost without you,
What am I gonna do, said I been needing you,wantin' you (wanting you)
wonderin' if your the same, and who's been with you
isn't your heart still mine, I wanna cry sometimes (I miss you)

(Now I'm sitting here..)

thinking bout' you, and the days we used to share
It's driving me crazy, I don't know what to do,
I'm just wondering if you still care
I don't wanna let you know, that it's killing me,
I know you gotta another life you gotta concentrate, baby

Come back to me
can you feel me
hear me, callin'
for you (cause it's..)

It's been to long, and I'm lost without you,
What am I gonna do, said I been needing you,wantin' you (wanting you)
wonderin' if your the same, and who's been with you
isn't your heart still mine, I wanna cry sometimes (I miss you)

It's been to long, and I'm lost without you,
What am I gonna do, said I been needing you,wantin' you (wanting you)
wonderin' if your the same, and who's been with you
isn't your heart still mine, I wanna cry sometimes (I miss you)

(I miss you)
i-i-i-i-i-i(I MISS YOU)
i-i-i-i-i-i (i miss you)

I-can't-breathe-no-more(no more, no)
since you went away
I, don't really feel like talking (no)
no one here to love me (no,no,no)
baby, don't you understand me
I can't do any-thing without you

It's been to long, and I'm lost without you,
What am I gonna do, said I been needing you,wantin' you (wanting you)
wonderin' if your the same, and who's been with you
isn't your heart still mine, I wanna cry sometimes (I miss you)

perlu ke cemburu

Hari ni saya nak bercerita tentang cemburu.Tahu tak sebenarnya cemburu itu apa?Perlu ke nak cemburu tu?Saya tak nak komen lebih ..sebab kadang-kadang rasa cemburu itu datang tanpa diundang.Walaupun dah ditepis-tepis but still melekat kat perasaan sendiri..haihh (-.-")

As i would like to say, jealousy is not a single emotion, but actually it is a whole bundle of feelings that tend to get lumped together. Mix feelings that might contain anger, fear, hurt, betrayal, anxiety, agitation, sadness, paranoia, depression, loneliness, envy, coveting, feeling powerless, feeling inadequate, or just feeling excluded. Apabila ada rasa cemburu, apa sebenarnya yang kamu rasa? Apabila cuba mengetahui punca rasa cemburu itu, tahu ke bahawa dengan mengenali component yang mungkin ada dalam perasaan cemburu itu boleh membantu dalam menyelesaikan masalah? ~ye ke boleh selesaikan masalah,ke tambah lagi..ahakz~ Adakah selamanya atau korang sentiasa rasa that mix feelings you have is always the same or does the mix feelings bertukar dari masa ke semasa bergantung kepada keadaan yang melanda?

Sebagai contoh, seorang perempuan boleh tau yang rasa cemburu yang dia rasa time tu ~kata lah orang tersayang dia gi dok bergurau senda dengan girl lain (istilah 'flirting' lebih sesuai) atau bertegur sapa dengan mesranya dan bila ditanya dapat jawapan "hey..tu tak ada apa apa, hanya merapatkan silaturahim" or "tegur je, bukan nya ajak dating" (-.-") ~ boleh jadi rasa cemburu itu timbul dari 40% marah, 30% rasa takut atau insecure, 20% betrayed dan lagi 20% rasa tak terdaya or powerless untuk menghalang atau berbuat apa apa towards that situation. However, to control this, when a woman asked her partner for reassurance and affection, and he provided it, the feeling of anger and betrayal disappeared, then her jealousy might more manageable, because most of what was left was fear and she could express those feelings more easily to her partner and resolve them together..easy isn't it? daripada kena sabar je or pendam je and things might get worse tanpa disedari, tau tau je nak 'meletup' n probably jadi 'psycho' (+__+") sighh..

Jealousy is all about it? ~takut apa.. (=.=")~

Penting untuk tahu dan juga faham kenapa cemburu itu terjadi and some says that jealousy is about fear, fear of the unknown and of change, fear of losing power or control in a relationship, fear of scarcity and of loss, and fear of abandonment, fear for everything .. Itu menggambarkan tentang our own insecurity about our worthiness, anxiety about being adequate as a lover,friends, doubts about our desirability or everything that might come up and bumm! the jealousy appear...Sebenarnya,untuk setiap rasa cemburu itu ada terselindung di sebaliknya as a much more significant emotion iaitu unmet need or a deep fear that our needs will not be met.

For example..hmm..kata lah si mamat ni believed in open relationship and his official partner/girlfriend -si minah- agree to acccept that kind of relationship so that diorang mcam tak 'terikat' to each other walaupun memang 'terikat'..faham tak?macam contoh si mamat ni boleh buat apa dia nak -dari on phone with other girl (i mean seriously 'gayut', if you know what i mean), flirting or get naughty bila lepak dengan kawan kawan lelaki (flirting beramai ramai), atau keep in touch dalam social network like friendster,myspace or facebook, etc- and tak kisah jika si minah lakukan yang serupa juga (maybe!) but somehow he became insanely jealous when his official girlfriend -si minah- baru kenal a guy dari facebook and that guy nak belanja dia aiskrim kon Mcd yang comel tu yang harga seringgit lebih dan ada rasa vanilla letak topping coklat (-.-") Isn't it feel awkward? Baru nak makan aiskrim free kot dah dicemburu ~dicemburu?apa nya tatabahasa tu?~ kalau nak banding dengan apa yang si boyfriend buat..kan kan..kan. ~itu sebagai contoh sahaja..tiada kena mengena dengan yang bercouple atau tidak.harap maklum,jangan saman saya *tiba tiba*~ tapi, ketahui lah bahawasanya apa yang di rasa oleh si mamat itu disebalik rasa cemburu itu adalah feeling of scarcity and deprivation or just felt threatened with the commitment they have.

Anyway, recognizing those fears and unmet needs is the key to unmasking jealousy and taking away its power as jealousy is just the finger to point at the fears and needs we are afraid to face. When jealousy kicks in, our very survival instinct is threatened. Bila rasa cemburu, cuba tanya diri sendiri ~kalau sempat sebelum 'meletup' lah kan~ "Apa sebenarnya yang aku takutkan?" or "What do I need to make this situation safe for me?" or "What is the worst thing that could happen and how likely is that to happen?" or "Am i ready to face this kind of situation or i just be paranoid" or "Hey,patut ke aku buat sesuatu atau biarkan dahulu" or "I boleh trust him,isn't it?" or "Kata cool, mesti boleh sabar kan?" atau "Kenapa mesti nak fikir negatif, boley try fikir positif kan?" atau "Aku gila geram sekarang dan boleh tak i just go straight to that girl and ask her what's her problem before i do something unimagine to her?" ~sila abaikan soalan terakhir is out of the stable emotions (=.=")~

Cemburu itu terbit dari kepercayaan/our core beliefs pikir la sendiri..
is it real?

Kepercayaan/core belief#1

If my partner really loved me, (s)he wouldn't have any desire for a relationship with anyone else. "Sebab dah sayang/cinta, mesti kat aku seorang kan"=>selalu nya perempuan.

This belief sees any interest your partner has in anyone else as a direct reflection of how much (s)he loves you. That's how people often put their judgement towards the jealousy.It's a quantitative view of love which equates the amount of love with the ability to be interested in having another partner. When you break it down, this is as absurd as saying like "dah dapat yang baru, yang lama tolak tepi" ..haiss..

Kepercayaan/core belief#2

Kayakinan yang melampau ~from my point of view~. Contoh (lebih kurang macam example yang saya ceritakan tadi about open relationship between si mamat and si minah), "My relationship is so solid and trusting that we can experience other relationships freely (konon konon nya!) as my partner is so satisfied with me and our relationship that having other partners will not threaten the bond we enjoy." For me..POYO!! HELL NO! haha..mungkin sebab saya lahir di Malaysia dan dah dibentuk ikut budaya Melayu yang "hey, aku untuk kau dan kau untuk aku,tiada orang ketiga atau keempat atau yang ke berapa sebab kalau ada memang siap orang itu aku kerjakan"..erk (-.-") .Tapi kalau luar negara maybe lah perkara mcam ni diorang tak berapa nak kisah kan..tengok lah..sesuka hati je tak kahwin tapi tinggal serumah macam laki bini but then somehow weekend keluar gi flirting dekat pub ke mana offense. Pendapat sendiri sahaja.

Kepercayaan/core belief#3

"There is an abundance of love in the world and there is plenty for everyone. Loving more than one person is a choice that can exponentially expand my potential for giving and receiving love." or some sort "Sekarang dunia dah berubah, lagipun nisbah perempuan dan lelaki dah macam 7:1. perempuan 7,lelaki 1 jadi tak mengapa kalau lelaki sayang perempuan ramai sebab kesian kat perempuan yang tak disayang tu.." sigghh (+__+")

-> Hello!! tu macam ayat ayat playboy je nak selamatkan diri. Amboi amboi..banyak cinta banyak orang kau nak sayang ye..ketuk kepala kang! Walaupun hakikat yang this kind of beliefs sound so strange, mengundang kepelik'an terhadap sesiapa yang mendengar and almost laughable to us but it is shows that just how deeply the old paradigm beliefs about love and relationships are ingrained in our consciousness.It also underscores the importance of dissolving these old beliefs if we ever hope to enjoy multiple relationships free of jealousy.Tetapi..back to the Malay culture, boleh terima ke tu?haha..sila sila..tampil ke hadapan memberi komen anda..tapi bagi saya tak kot..belum lagi kot..ahaha..boleh tak macam tu? (n.n)

Jealousy triggers.. can you recognize it?

When you discover exactly what triggers your jealousy, it puts things in perspective. Should we say realizing that you are only jealous of a small piece of the overall picture makes it much more manageable. Macam bak kata lelaki lelaki di luar sana yang girlfriend atau perempuan dalam hidup mereka yang cemburu, sebab hal kecil je dah cemburu. Hal kecil tapi di besar-besarkan. (-.-"). Apabila dah identify your jealousy triggers, ada dua basic choices you can use that is you can "engineer the problem away" ~bukan terus walking away ok~ by making agreements with your partner to avoid that particular behavior or situation or you can use the "phobia model", taking the risk of gradually exposing yourself to situations which trigger your jealousy in the hopes that you will learn to tolerate and eventually feel comfortable with it, belajar untuk menerima bak kata orang.Dah jadi baru tau macam mana nak handle..aha.Tapi jangan la saja cari pasal atau mencabar kesabaran your partner/spouse ye.Tiap orang ada their own limitations and acceptions. Dua cara yang mungkin boleh membantu anda di luar sana mengawal keadaan dan juga perasaan cemburu itu.

Anyway..just bear in mind that without love and passion to care, there will be no jealousy so bagi sesiapa yang pernah rasa cemburu atau dicemburu oleh pasangan anda, you should just be grateful about it as long it is not harmful to you or anyone else.Daripada rasa alone, lonely dan tak ada sesiapa kisah kau nak jadi apa, dah makan ke sihat ke ..kan kan.. tapi cemburu buta bahaya,sila elakkan. ~tapi kalau ada yang melebih-lebih sama ada pasangan anda atau orang ketiga itu sila make your move atau bagi dia dengar lagu Don't Mess With My Man by Nivea sebelum anda lakukan apa apa out of ordinary (x__x") *tiba-tiba psycho*~

p/s: saya ada entry lirik lagu itu..sila check di older posts ye.Nak lagu tu cari sendiri.Kalau tak dapat,baru bagitau nanti saya upload dalam blog ni.tq.